How to date Africans

When many of you read this title, you will think am definitely out of my mind but one thing you must ask yourself, what drives me to this topic?

An American friend of mine once posted on face book that she was indeed done with love, I tried engaging her only to realize she had been dating an American based local breed (read African American). About the same time another white buddy Collin also complained about his girl (who actually happens to be Ugandan), but on analyzing the two parties’ complaints, the reason was simple: they all failed to understand their dark colored partners. And this is where I come in.
How on earth can one contain a relationship with his or her black partner or bluntly an African?
By nature Africans are very friendly people but not aptly predictable or obvious. We are hard wired people and because of the turbulence we’ve seen from childhood, our minds are definitely built for harder times, we don’t simply cry for the sake of doing it, we don’t get hurt yet we do hurt others (of course none of us intends to) and we are never sentimental or emotional about anything.
I know many of these are the opposite of an average white kid who has probably made 25 but has never seen their mum shade a tear, in Africa life is different even when you are brought up by some of the richest families, a situation will arise and you will witness your dad’s wet eyes thus an African child grows with a mind well versed that life always has ways of messing you up no matter how hard you work to get it all.

Unlike the western culture where people battle fertility issues in search of a kind, in Africa children are a normal occurrence that today your neighbor will give birth and become pregnant eleven months later thus the theory of treasuring kinds in Africa ends on the parental love but not a guarantee that they are entitled to remember you birthday. In fact some of us grew up in homes where none of us never ever celebrated a birthday. It’s because of such that an African will always be bad with dates regardless of how much he\she loves you, they will forget your birthday or the actual day you meant. I mean I’ve been in relationships and the only dates I remember about them are the years. If a wedding wasn’t celebrated massively with a huge crowd and all those who turn up to wish they could steal him/her away from you, it would have gone all washed to the drainage in an Africans’ mind.

Not that we hard to love, it’s just that we earn each little thing we get, respect, love, money and all the other things. Because of our nature we try so much to prove we are worth it and we forget all about those precious things like birthdays, graduation and anniversary. It’s only in Africa where a kind is on the school football team and they are sure their parents are not coming to watch them play; in fact none of the kids on the team has a parent in the crowd to cheer them, by none I mean NONE not even the substitutes’ parents are around. For the years I played basketball or performed on stage for the music club, I didn’t expect to see my mum or dad in the crowd. They’ve actually never seen me perform I even doubt they know I can sing.
Thus for a person brought up my way, its hard or even impossible to show emotions, I mean you can’t show something you have no idea about. If many of you have watched African movies, you would be able to understand what I mean. Just like many African actors rarely use facial expression, that’s the way we are most of the time. We say what hurts us or cry about it for people to know we are hurt.
You can’t talk to your African boyfriend about him forgetting your birthday when he usually forgets his own. Dude has never celebrated his own and you’re pushing him to celebrate yours, is that realistic? Even love knows it’s not.
An African won’t make time  to remember where you first mate or the first words you actually told him because probably when he first approached you he was on a try out and luckily it worked miracles and you still expect him to store that in his nut? Who remembers the first rock song they tried to pirate?
Like I said Africans are not complicated just understand where they come from, it’s not a jungle as your high school teacher made you believe but a hustle that leaves no room for emotions and those other feelings. If they are understood Africans are welcoming and warmhearted people.